Motherhood from a different perspective

The foundation of motherhood is laid in the adolescent age of a girl when she has her menses for the first time. Initially accepting the fact that this will be there throughout her life is very difficult to digest..She feels its a curse on womanhood and eventually accepts it. One fine day she gets pregnant. [...]

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How many of you believe in telepathy? There was a time I did not believe in it too..However, there were some sentimental moments when I was proved wrong. Lying on the bed with heart full of intense emotions for some loved one, I used to express my emotions before I slept. When I badly missed [...]

Love…a strength

"Love is a waste of time it only makes you weaker and vulnerable.." This is what those deprived of love in life say. They restrain themselves from letting their emotions flow building a shell around their hearts. They don't let themselves get drenched in the feelings and remain dry and emotionless. Love is eternal and [...]

Sleepy cuddles

There she lies beside him with open eyes searching him in the dark. He is lying down on the bed snoring and sleeping sound. His eyes tired with the day's work are helplessly asleep. What separates them on the cosy little bed is the small distance that is needed to allow him a comfortable sleep. [...]

The hurricane of destiny

I sketched your memories with sand grains of my emotions. I had thought, I had caged them in my heart forever. But then came the hurricane of destiny. The wind of time blew rough and cold and messed the sand grains of my emotions. The lightening of the sudden unexpected shock shook my heart. The [...]

Possessiveness- a blemish on love

How difficult it is, to see someone whom you love like someone else! But if this love is true, you will never end up controlling and restricting their life. You will always let your loved one free. Love is like a butterfly 🦋! The more you chase it, the farther it flies. The more you [...]

Loosen happiness boundaries

'Life & happiness' has always been my favorite topic to think and talk all the time. Pursuit of happiness is a continuous process which leaves us with infinite revelations. I would like to share a recent thing that enlightened me when my life took one of the worst roller coaster rides. We always have set [...]

I walked away..

Yes..I walked away. No...I wasn't a coward. I walked away when I became strong.. realizing they aren't worth my time and energy. I fought the battles, I also won them. I put together all my strength for the good and the truth but there I lost, for the evil doesn't value either. So today, I [...]

The breeze at dawn

The silence spread over me like the dark night engulfing my soul. The storm of my feelings was showing its tantrums. The high tide of my emotions dashed on some pieces of my heart turned into rocks. The chaos of the tornado of grief deafened my ears. The clouds of gloom over my eyes soon [...]

I miss…’US’

"I could never say 'I miss you!'. The very reason is 'I miss you' is too shallow! Missing someone is so complex! Missing is not just about the rememberence of the flashbacks of butterflies in stomach, exciting eyemeets, long deep dives in eyes, shy gazes and often those eyeshifts to the floor. It's more than [...]

We are humans first!

Celebrations are going on...showers of posts on facebook, whatsapp, twitter, newspapers, television and where not? The pink is in the air! Everyone is speaking about the multitasker 'super woman'. She is a 'super woman' today and just a 'woman' the other days. Isn't it the time to tell people how special you are but the [...]

A part of you is forever mine

There you walk in the hostile crowd, you are always very one with it. You feel aloof and alone sometimes, please don't say no, I have noticed it! The true you is hidden, behind the new fancy face you wear. But the fake people who surround you, about the 'real you', they never care. So [...]

The other side of tearless eyes

Once upon a time I was very proud of being an emotional person. I considered emotions to be the only sign of liveliness. On the other hand I always saw practicality as heartlessness. As I saw more life, I realized that emotions have invited numerous scars on my heart. When I cherished extreme pleasure I [...]

Self realization

Once upon a time I struggled to understand my potential. Neither had I thought of utilizing my potential nor had I thought to expand its horizons and test its limits. I did not realize who I was and what I was capable of doing... Till ...I started thinking about it. There I began, the journey [...]

Eternal happiness – a mind trick

Eternal happiness is difficult to realize as happy moments don't last long. Perhaps, that is the reason why some of us feel that eternal happiness is a myth. But this holds true if we think of happiness on a shorter span of time. Nothing lasts long and how can happy moments be an exception to [...]

Chanting your name

I chanted your name.. The rose petals spread across my face in an effortless bloom of my smile. I chanted your name again.. It felt like those first rain showers enlivening, rejuvenating me with an eternal charming and dazzle I chanted your name one more time.. The enormous wave of bliss, confidence and strength spread [...]

Gateway to happiness..your smile is precious!!

In the hustle life when we run in the crowds with lonely hearts and no trustworthy ear to hear our woes. I have started a new venture 'Gateway to happiness' to listen to your problems, help you find a solution, change your perspective about life and bring a smile on your face. Empty your heart, [...]

The flyover to happiness

My article published in Times of India!!! https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/readersblog/the-words-untrammelled/the-flyover-to-happiness-1714/ Read and share😇😇 Follow me on my social networks! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chitkaladitosh https://www.facebook.com/Chitkalamulye/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chitkalamulye Twitter: https://twitter.com/Chitkaladitosh?s=08

The virtual ‘YOU’

I opened my moist eyes. It was pitch dark. My feet were frozen and I couldn't step ahead. I tried again and I fell down on my knees. My knees hurt and bled. I remembered your helping hand that supported me whenever I fell. You had taught me how to stand on my feet when [...]

We are humans too!

"Be a man!"(Oh! So being a woman is something shameful right?😣).. "The cave man was a hunter and gatherer.." (So it seems women did not exist that time!Or were women cave wives that time and could not hunt or gather food ??🤣) Wait! I am sure you must have wondered why am I quoting such [...]

The magical power of immuneness

Silence is more powerful than words and poise even more powerful than a fight. We waste a huge amount of energy in fighting unnecessary battles and bombarding others with futile words. It is indeed a waste of time and energy. All it does is it destroys our internal peace. The real strength in us lies [...]

Change begins with us

I loved to control the situations around me. I tried my best to change them. But I failed..Do you know why? I did not know that if we need to change the world the change begins from us!!!! That was the turning point in my life when I began to introspect why I failed. The [...]

It’s not my birthday its my rebirth!!

It's my birthday today! I realize I am 27 now! I am neither happy that I am one year older nor I am happy for spending 27 long years of my life. I am happy because I have grown by more number of years just in a single year. I have seen more of life! [...]

Fight with the night

The night spread out like a demon waiting for his prey, intimidating, frightening and filling up every corner of my heart with fear. Asking me to fight or flee in the pitch darkness at my every step. The ghosts of nightmares attacking me and then the time to slow it down. I lie on the [...]

Treasuring someone

We meet infinite people in our lives. Some people are so precious that we can never forget them. They should be preserved and cherished in the form of their thoughts and actions. They leave their indelible footprints in our lives. As time flows we have to leave such worthy special someones behind and move ahead [...]

Too many facets😏

Human being is so complex! So many faces and so many dimensions! When we get to know a person we hardly know a face or two of this incredible complex being. As we proceed in our life, we take a look from different perspectives and get to see different faces from new dimensions. That's where [...]

Replacement

Everyone seems to be unique, but even the uniqueness is no good at times when you are replaced by someone so easily.  This is the most painful period in life, that you know you have given in your life and blood for something or someone yet someone replaced you. You may be an epitome of [...]

The uncontrollable force within

I have heard many saying .."I wanted to do it but the situations suppressed me..people around me were not supportive..I did not get a conducive environment for my growth.." Nah..I don't agree with them. Strong emotions of love for someone or something intensified with dedication and commitment...nothing stops them from growing. Nothing stops them from [...]

Setting the wrong right

We end up with wrong people, wrong career paths, and wrong decisions. What decides your future is not your wrong, but the ability to rise after you fall and set the wrong right. That's the time when you have to mould yourself, make yourself more flexible to adjust to fit where you exist and flow [...]

A ride in life

I was very upset and disappointed. I was not able to sleep for a long time. I tried to close my eyes again. Now I was sitting in a car and I turned the key to start my car. Suddenly, the darkness vanished and I felt myself driving the car on a smooth road through [...]

Dependency..an attitude

The sun bathes the trees in its warmth, and the trees grow and bloom in the showers. All elements of nature are interdependent. Nature itself exists on interdependence. But when it comes to human beings may it be a physical emotional or financial dependency we feel insecure. However, dependency is an attitude and not a condition. [...]

When moving on is difficult..

Emotions are like a flowing river. When the time flows they get replaced. The emotions become memories frozen and get locked behind. The time flows and these memories are never lost. They never lose their place. These impressions created by time can never be washed away. But the ties flash in the form of tears [...]

Earn it!

We struggle with our emotions thinking we are not getting enough. We go on expecting after we put in efforts in relationships. As time passes we expect everything would get better.. But that never happens! Eventually we feel the other person does not reciprocate and we give up or begin to think that she doesn't [...]

Should the love run deep?

I see people expressing love, displaying their affection so extravagantly. I also see people keeping their feelings to themselves loving silently and deeply. The dynamics of these feelings, expressions, and reciprocation is so complex that it leaves me baffled! If you express a lot to those whom you love , they feel good and happy. [...]

My genuineness…they thought was a mask

I was taught to be genuine.. I was taught to be honest...I was taught not to wear a mask. As I grew up my eyes got baffled with the constant color changes of the masks around. I stepped ahead to feel and love the faces I saw and the images that were behind the beautiful [...]

Those irreversible reactions!!

Emotion.. That element which gives direction to relations and shapes them.. I wonder how these emotions create miracles with time. A relation at this instant never remains the same as time passes. Isn't that similar to what Einstein said? The love at this instant also changes with time.. The feelings change as they flow and [...]

Befriending the situations

I was a person who always wanted complete control over the situations in my life. When they went out of my hands, I felt insecure and anxious. As time passed, I realized that the rigidity we have in our nature and behavior stops us from adapting with the situations. If we show our resistance to [...]

Don’t LET!

Are you hurt? Are you sad? Who was the one who made you feel so bad? Did anyone insult you? Did anyone embarrass you? Yes??? Now I will ask you.. why even did you allow someone to do so? Baffled??? I believe no one can hurt you without your own permission. Neither can one cheat [...]

That sensitive part of us!

The dynamics in human relationships is dependent on that hidden thing in our hearts. The person who is capable of maneuvering that sensitive part of us emerges powerful! Did you guess what that thing can be? That little sensitive thing is EGO! Every person in this world struggles to preserve his or her 'self'. Nobody [...]

Home, should it be a place?

Home is not a place where you stay. Home is a place where you are free. It is the place where you do not require poise, you can be spontaneous. Nobody stops you from crying here. Ino worries if you show up the craziest face. It is the place where your emotions seek shelter. It [...]

Why love doesn’t exist

Love is a sometimes volatile while other times it is eternal. Love is a mix of needs, physical and emotional...woven into different bonds.. love is friendship.. love is a habit..love is sharing..and love is caring.. When all of these delicate feelings exist, love is there. But slowly and steadily these delicate feelings walk away as [...]

More power to all!

Many of us are weaklings during our child hood, teenage, and sometimes even throughout our life. Life is not easy for weaklings. Its a always a tough time.. undeserved criticism..blames for uncommitted mistakes.. fear of rejections.. lost arguments.. bullying and what not! All these weaklings have a constant feeling of low confidence, low self esteem [...]

Feel grateful..or else the worst times in life will teach you..

Setbacks in life best teach you the value of happiness. When the whole world is constantly finding rational and spiritual ways to pursuit of happiness; I feel intense grief can only be the easiest way to teach this art of achievement of eternal bliss. When life takes you through the most unexpected and inadvertent twists [...]

Need for human empowerment

Women's day was celebrated with a great zeal and enthusiasm. Everywhere every person talked about women empowerment. Men conveyed their best wishes to women on that day. But I have a few questions to raise. I feel we all need to think about it in a different way. Women made themselves feel and look special [...]

Struggle

When a seedling sprouts, it has to emerge from the heavy soil growing upward. It has to use all its strength to let it survive in the intense sun and sometimes in paucity water. This is struggle, survival and success. No one in this world can ever escape struggle. The person who doesn't struggle becomes [...]

Loves me..loves me not..

I feel we all are born to love and born to be loved. The person whom you love may leave your life or even one's own life but the love remains. A person loving you may stop loving you or might not even love you back. But the love you feel is eternal and immortal. [...]

The power of unconditional love

It was Valentine's Day yesterday. The happy couples in love must have celebrated joyfully, the happily singles would have enjoyed it in a different way but for those with broken hearts. 😦 Most of us feel that love which doesn't get reciprocation is incomplete. So all the broken hearts feel sad on the Valentine's Day. [...]

Could lowering of puberty age be the reason?

"Even I have a girlfriend," said a ten-year-old kid. I was surprised. There was a time when having a boyfriend or a girlfriend was a status symbol during our junior college days. Things have changed now! It's a status symbol for kids too! Not just that, but we also hear cases of a kid trying [...]

Words vs silence

Distance created by words is more painful than what silence can create. It pricks, it hurts it wets the eyes with tears. Silence can atleast leave a hope but words kill the flame of hope that silence can leave in a hopeful heart. There is always a chance that silence can end with words. Words [...]

I love you!

Do you talk to yourself?? I am very serious. Do you ever talk to your 'self'? No? We always try to strengthen relationships with people who are close to us. We love and invest our emotions in all those who have been with us during ups and downs and tough times. But even they fail [...]

One stress at a time!

Life has become so fast! There are so many fronts that need to be handled all at a time. Your girlfriend is angry with you, the boss has piled up work for you, your dear pet has to be hospitalized and the list is never-ending. The clock runs faster than we can imagine. The more [...]

Vicious cycle

Loving someone is so difficult! You love, and you expect to be loved back.When you don't get the much-needed reciprocation, your involvement gives you pain! You care, you yearn, you wait, you spend every second of your life thinking about that one person whom you love. But when you realize that this person whom you [...]

The flame of hope

Life is a sequel of changes. Nothing remains the same, neither sorrow nor happiness. There are rare occasions when we get what we want. What comes to our rescue during tough times is that flickering flame of hope. This hope gives us courage to dream and power to pursue our dreams. It gives you strength [...]

How difficult it is!!

I live life passionately to enjoy the best smiles and the happiest moments. I get fully immersed in whatever I do, whatever I like and whatever I wish to achieve. But the worst part of this habit is, whenever you don't get what you want, you end up getting depressed. Buddhism says, desire is the [...]

What was their mistake?

A newly wed couple was waiting for the society chairman. The couple was very eager to sign the house-agreement for their much-awaited dream home. After a long struggle with their parents to make their inter-religion marriage a success, they were heading towards their new life. With their hearts throbbing with excitement they were finally waiting to stay [...]

Right or wrong

Right and wrong are so relative words. When our life is caught in the tangles of right and wrong, we are unable to justify our thoughts and acts. What comes up in the tornado of the right or wrong conflict is the guilt. Guilt imprisons our souls and burdens our conscience. So close your eyes [...]

For the baby only..

Girls are so irritating in those four days of the month, right? So insane and so intolerable! It's not them. It's their body and their hormones. They not only go through the monthly pains but also the labour pains during pregnancy. It hurts them too. They take all this trouble to gift that baby for [...]

Happy Friendship Day!!

Friendship knows no bounds of age and relations. It adds colors to any relationship making it evergreen! Friendship gives an opportunity to give a new leaf to old torn relationships and to take baby steps towards new buds. Strong and unbreakable ties of friendship give lives to dead relations and save relations from dying. The golden bond [...]

A ‘good morning’ made my day

I entered my office security gate with sleepy eyes and Monday blues. Like every day I opened my handbag for the daily security check process. This is the most irritating thing of the day I feel. It takes more time when I am late and have to punch in at the earliest. I hate this [...]

He broke up because..

She was sitting at the coffee shop waiting for him. She had covered her face with her hands and was weeping in frustration. She was thinking why he had said, "I am meeting you for the last time." Her mind was crowded with numerous thoughts. She was still wondering why her relationship went through thick [...]

100 shades of grey..

The art of forgiving is indeed a difficult thing to learn! But once inculcated, makes life easier and happier. It helps heal painful moments and sleepless nights waking us up to see a brighter sunshine. Though we blame the world for being unfair, we can never ignore that nothing lasts for long.  Change,  being the law [...]

Wait

Many days have passed. He is still the same. Standing on the shore. The waves of time are taking away the sand underneath his feet. His broken heart is lying around his feet in pieces. Neither the waves of time nor his own feet have let them get carried away with time. He is till [...]

Time

My best friend is "Time", It's my magician divine; It helps win knotty negotiations, It charms up ruptured relations; Giving a lot of  patience, The thoughts it enlightens; Time unravels the masks filthy, It catches the crooked and guilty; With time you burgeon and grow, Becoming ripe and mellow 🙂 -Chitkala Copyright 2017 Chitkala Mulye [...]

Mirror mirror on the wall!

She is tired. She hasn't slept last night. She has those puffy eyes that clearly indicate that even the tears left her eyes all alone. She has those dark circles and even the glow of her face is not willing to come back. The first thing that she would have thought is to wear a good [...]

Liberate men!

Hey boys, Do you remember when was that day when you were in tears and your eyes puffy? Maybe one day in your childhood when somebody must have said, "Don't cry like a girl". It’s good to be strong and not cry. However if a guy feels like crying and weeping, it’s not a crime. [...]

Magic of scarcity

Welcome to the market of love and relationships! We desperately try to win hearts of people we love. We take immense efforts to make them happy. But at the end of the day, we suffer a loss in the account of 'love'. Everything stops working at a point. We lose our value in the market of [...]

Lost love for brown

Traditional Indian people talk about "feeling proud of Indian culture....cherishing Indian culture...". I feel like asking them a question. "Are you proud of Indian skin colors?" I'm pretty sure that most of them won't be. They will prefer fairer brides for their sons and will definitely underestimate the beauty of darker skin shades. Oh! I [...]

Diversification of happiness

When the world is grappling with the pursuit happiness, I have my own 'funda' - diversification of happiness. We invest our interests and emotions in a few people, situations, activities and often end up saying "Nothing is going right!". We have dreams and ambitions for which we crave desperately. When these dreams are shattered into pieces [...]

Marriage is not an event!

I wonder why people exclaim, "Finally the couple in love got married! Happy endings!"I have always thought of love and marriage more as a journey that begins when a couple commits to be life partners.  It continues throughout the life, till the moment when one of the them takes the last breath or due to an [...]

Utopic delusion

Welcome to the Utopic World!!  Who said life can't be perfect!  A beauty mode photo can hide the dark spots and pimples and make disappear your old age wrinkles.. making you look ever green and young. The technology  magician has fulfilled the dreams of actors who wanted to be singers.. The magician blessed them with [...]